"All that glisters is not gold;
Often have you heard that told:
Many a man his life hath sold
But my outside to behold"
The Merchant of Venice, William Shakespeare
Believe it or not, my life isn't all that glamorous. But I had you fooled for a second, didn't I? [enter ridiculously sarcastic laughter here]
No, I'm constantly looking at the world around me and wishing I had something else. And that jealousy? It comes in every lovely shade of green known to mankind. I get jealous a lot.
I'm stricken with a tiny twinge of envy every time I see the following:
- A house for sale
- A pregnant woman wearing a wedding ring
- Someone driving an Escalade (I bet you never saw that coming)
- Someone eating Taco Bell (ohhhhh yeah)
- A young family out to dinner
- A couple - any couple - holding hands
- A father - any father - holding his daughter
- Someone posting pictures on FB of some fabulous vacation [Barcelona, Michelle? Really?? :) ]
- Someone using a Macbook
- The Olympics (if you can actually feel good about yourself while watching the Olympics, good for you. For me, it was like a 2-week reality check that did nothing for my own self-esteem...)
- My neighbor, who walks his Harper-lookalike dog. Every. Single. Night.
- My other neighbor, who goes for a walk with his wife and one-year-old son. Every. Single. Night.
- Approximately 99% of the pins on Pinterest
- A train station (I adore traveling by train)
- Someone wearing a rose gold Michael Kors watch
It seems natural to want something more than what we've been given. But it takes an awful lot of energy to focus on wanting what we don't have.
Want to know a secret?
Someone is jealous of what you've got. Yes, you. They're jealous of you. They want what you have. Do you wish you were taller? There's someone who wishes they could wear high heels without looking like a Behemoth. Do you wish you hadn't gotten pregnant? There's someone out there who spends 24 hours a day praying they could have a baby. Do you wish you were thinner? Someone out there wants to be as thin as you. Do you wish you were married? I guarantee there's someone who would kill to be as independent as you. Do you wish you weren't married? There's someone out there who wants a husband more than anything. Jealousy is a vicious little feeling, and everyone has it. It knows no boundaries, it masks the ugly truth behind a beautiful facade, and it can completely warp your perspective.
I think about this when I sit at home alone with Sol. Yeah, I find myself wishing I were sitting in an actual house, planning a cruise of the Greek Isles on my Macbook and looking at my Michael Kors watch as I wait impatiently for my husband to show up in our Escalade with some Taco Bell for dinner (oh, sorry, were you not expecting that much detail??). But alas, wishing will never make something happen. Jealousy is empty energy. Simply eyeing something with envy won't make it come true.
Take the same advice that was given to me: be careful how much time you spend being jealous, and certainly be careful what you're jealous of. Chances are, someone is spending their own energy wishing they had what you have. You have a fabulous life, and an enviable life at that. Live it well, and live it richly. Your life is the one thing that is totally, completely, undeniably yours.
P.S. On a [sort of] related side note, I bought a watch that's reminiscent of the original Michael Kors watch - for about 1/8 of the MK price. Not too shabby!!